When you come to me with an issue that you would like to resolve, we begin with a clear map of where you currently are: what are the habitual thoughts and behaviors that are keeping you stuck in one place. I know how to elicit your insights so that you can clearly see where you have ceded control over your own actions. Even though part of you wants to grow and change, your brain will tend to warn you away from new ways of thinking since it likes to stay with what’s familiar. Together we will sort through your thoughts: which ones are serving you? which ones sound nice but are actually keeping you in a rut?

Next we take a good look at where you want to go: what does it look like? How will you feel? What are your worries about getting there? If you’re not yet where you want to be in a particular area, you have some thoughts that are working counter to your goal, and they will sabotage you unless you bring them out into the open and decide consciously if you want to continue believing them.